Journal writing allows me to leave perspectives, memories, attitudes, experiences, and the story of my life's experiences for those who come after me. Many times as I found ancestor families, I craved having journals of their daily lives to strengthen me.
Just like my pleasure at teaching my children and now enjoying grandchildren, journals allow me to potentially influence others for as long as the pages/words survive. When my weaknesses in attitude, faith or capacity are recorded, readers will be able to read on and see I eventually worked through each season and move forward with my life. It may encourage them.
Why I am committed to family research and journal writing
Members of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints believe we lived in spirit form before coming into mortality. We had learning opportunities, formed relationships and awaited our turn to come to earth. Mortality is, yet, another learning experience. Our time on earth gives us the chance to evidence our nature and disposition, to prove our capacities for many things from the use of our talents and gifts to the exercise of commitments we made before birth to be of goodly (kind, generous, loving, nurturing, etc.) nature and to form healthy, lasting relationships.
Just as biblical scriptures are records of Old Testament and New Testament historical events and stories, journals become the same evidence of one's having lived a complete life. During our lives others may judge our actions and find us lacking in some way. But, if our journals are complete, we leave a record of the desires of our hearts and our efforts to overcome our weaknesses and shortfalls. We also share our insights and celebrations - birth of children, accomplishments of those we love, the tragedies or hardships we endure and the lessons we learn from our daily experiences.
Some life's lessons are just as important as lessons we learn from the scriptures. We learn from one another just as we learn from the heros we find in the scriptures. But, to have that learning opportunity we must share our thoughts and experiences in written form, just like the prophets and disciples did hundreds and thousands of years ago.
Comparing our lives...
Raising children in a limited income household, when my children were young, often gave me a sense of frustration and disappointment. When the grocery budget did not meet the appetite of my quickly growing family I would, at times, feel life was not treating me fairly.
Over a period of months (when I first began to research my patriarchal line) I learned that George Acheson left Ireland in 1849 to come to Canada with a new bride. The young couple must have anticipated wonderfully good things ahead - because they knew if they escaped the Irish potatoe famine, life had to improve.
How could they have known that the bride (as yet unidentified in official records) would die during the crossing and be buried at sea. It nearly broke my heart to learn his dream for their fresh start was so dashed. He eventually became a policeman in the City of York (Toronto) and married a woman he met apparently on his beat. He kept the faith, had children and they had children and so on... and so on... and here I am.
Another record search offered me the Will of a family member. Again from Ireland, the deceased had so little property of value that leaving "gooseberry bushes" to family members was recorded. When poverty creates the need for such donations of good will, lessons about today's financial constraints are quickly brought into perspective.
Parenting pains...
As mentioned in an earlier posting, my third child, a son, Nathan was born intellectually impaired (my contracting measles during pregnancy). Nathan had hearing problems and is aphasic (lacks language/speech).
I felt a great deal of anxiety about Nathan when he was young. I prayed and begged God more days and nights than I can recall now, to make a miracle happen and to have Nat become whole. I also constantly asked"why?" and felt once again that life wasn't fair. No other parents in my immediate association had a child with a disability, until much later in Nat's life.
Then one evening, as I carefully reviewed a microfilm, again hunting for my Acheson ancestors, I began to collect the names found in birth records for children of a specific husband and wife. They had one, then a second, a third and even a fourth child all in the space of a few brief years. I had four children of my own, each born two years apart. I could see their little family in my mind.
Then, in the death records I reviewed later that night, I began to cry as I found the death of two of their youngsters. The reality of health care limitations, limited food products, warm homes, lack of daily conveniences like running water and flushing facilities were so apparent that my life looked like a picnic in retrospect to my ancestors. I might have to plan for Nat's ongoing needs, but I had supports and opportunities available to me that would never have been imagined to that bereft couple.
My family is forever - today! I know many of them by researching where they lived, their children, their challenges (records of wars and land losses). They keep me going and I hope my remembering them, gives them pleasure. I say that confidently, because I know they exist - again in spirit form. They are waiting to regain the joy of permanent physical bodies they will gain in the resurrection.
We will meet. We will greet, and because I believe I may have known many of them before I came into mortality, I look forward to regaining their association. We are everything to one another. They've made me possible, and I'm grateful to them. It's so good!
Perspective is everything in life.
"half empty... half full!"
challenges vs. opportunities
hardships and trials or growth and development
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